Run to the edge of a cliff and stop on a dime.

This is my one of my favorite Constructive Living maxims. It takes a little thinking about. It has that Zen-like obfuscation factor which can be irritating to some – but which I love.

It’s not a call to lemming-like suicide as you might think. Perhaps another C.L. maxim of a similar nature would shed some light. “Give and give until you say goodbye.” Or – as a man named Ecclesiastes once put it “To everything there is a season. And a time to every purpose under Heaven.” Meaning there is a time to run and a time to stop. When it’s appropriate to run you run flat out. When it’s appropriate to stop you stop.

I thought of this today as I was watching a Sunday morning political news show. By the time you read this ,we will either have a new President or a lot of fat cat lawyers will be very busy. I have strong opinions about whom I would like to be our next President. Whatever happens, however, I have let go of the outcome.
Letting go of an outcome is a tough concept for some people. They see it as not having faith in yourself; giving up; being negative. To admit that you may not get what you want may appear to be defeatist. In fact – nonattachment to the outcome of your actions is a strong peaceful position to take in the world. It all comes down to what is controllable and what is not.

My personal commitment to having my guy be the next President is within my control as are my actions which spring from that commitment. I can give money, time and effort. I can attempt to sway undecided voters and I can man the phones to get the vote out on November 4th. But the actual final national outcome of the election is not within my control.

So I give and give until it’s not appropriate to give anymore. I run until it would be unwise to continue running.

I see what Reality presents to me and I respond to it.

Lewis and Clark Pay Attention

As I write this, Southern California has just ended its second week of triple digit temperatures. The intense heat changes the way we live and alters the rhythm of our days. We are up earlier to walk the dog while the park is still cool. We spend a lot of time indoors in the air conditioning. We’ve been eating better. We don’t want to heat up the house with the stove – so it’s salads and chicken from the grill. And, as I don’t want to head out in my black car two or three times a day, I find myself thinking more about what I need to do and combining trips and make lists.

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My Mother’s Garden

Clients come to me in distress and I work with them on Purposeful Living.

In the main, they get it. Sometimes, though, when I get to the part about doing what you need to do when you need to do it, my listeners eyes glaze over and I know I’ve lost them. I get the response that it doesn’t seem like much “fun” to find your purpose and do what you need to do. In fact, it sounds rather Calvinistic. It sounds like trudging uphill in the rain with your head down – oblivious to your surroundings.

“Where’s the joy?”, someone asked once. “What about fun and having a good time?”.
I never really knew how to respond except to assure my listener that I do have a lot of fun and joy in life and I enjoy getting my purpose accomplished.

Sometimes, I tell them about my mother’s garden.

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The Constructed Life Coaching Program

The Constructed Life Coaching Program is a simple, but very powerful, re-education process which will show you how to:

• Initiate action

• Manage change

• Make clearer decisions

• Reduce stress and anxiety

It is very different from conventional therapeutic Life Coaching, which may offer support and expert guidance in various life situations.

Constructive Living takes the contrarian viewpoint that it is a useless endeavor to go back over the past to understand ourselves, “work” with feelings, or “fix” ourselves by building self-esteem, boosting self-confidence and the like.

Because it is more of a lifestyle re-educational process, it provides for a complete shift of perspective and provides an easy methodology for dropping old, useless habits, belief systems and non-productive behaviors.

In many cases, it also has the power to reduce stress, help quiet the internal, chattering dialogue and still our anxieties.

Despite the proven and beneficial psychological effects the Constructive Living lifestyle provides, it is completely behaviorally oriented and rooted in common sense.

It will easily and immediately :

• Get you out of your head and into action

• Fuel your Creative Spirit and sharpen your vision

• Release you from the tyranny of your own feelings

• Show you how to eliminate negative internal chatter which you may be using to hold yourself back

• Free you to respond spontaneously and confidently to whatever arises

For a more comprehensive summary of Constructive Living, I encourage you to click on the hover pop-up on this site for an absolutely free e-book.

“Seven Simple Principles of Constructive Living”

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